Monday, October 11, 2010

Sibling Rivalry Solution

Do you have siblings? Did you grow up not liking them then, but do now? I know everybody's story is different. Me? I am the youngest of four. They were mean to me. There was fighting. There was dislike among us. In fact, we didn't get to be friends until we became adults. So, why try so hard to get my children to get along and like each other when my story is similar to so many others?

I'd rather them just accept the not liking each other, but keep a peace in this home until they are mature enough to get along on their own doing. Forcing them to hug or say "I love you" or even look at each other with kind faces feels impossible.


I came up with a saying that I hung on my refrigerator this morning. It can really be applied to any relationship we are currently in:

I wanted to say "You can't change each other", but I don't like using the "can't" word when teaching. So, we'll see how that goes. :)


Chelle said...


Irritable Mother said...

My kids don't believe me that one day they WILL love each other - and even like being together. But as I hugged my brother this past weekend, so glad to see him after what seemed like a long time, I was reminded again that it will happen.
Even so, like you I want to teach them to get along in the now. Some days are better than others. And I'm trying to be thankful for the good moments. *grin*

nikkie said...

good idea.

do you think it is still a good idea if i yell from the other room....'go and read the refridgerator!?'

we are in the middle of it over are not alone in this sibling rivalry business.

many days it starts at the breakfast table. ugh.

love ya!